3つのテーブルでの完全な外部結合

このクエリを試してください-

（編集済み）

SELECT
  t.month,
  COUNT(DISTINCT t1.column) t1count,
  COUNT(DISTINCT t2.column) t2count,
  COUNT(DISTINCT t3.column) t3count
FROM 
  (SELECT MONTH(datetime) AS month FROM t1
    UNION
  SELECT MONTH(datetime) AS month FROM t2
    UNION
  SELECT MONTH(datetime) AS month FROM t3
  ) t
  LEFT JOIN t1
    ON t.month = MONTH(t1.datetime)
  LEFT JOIN t2
    ON t.month = MONTH(t2.datetime)
  LEFT JOIN t3
    ON t.month = MONTH(t3.datetime)
  GROUP BY
    month